What is the most infuriating "is not a big deal" you have ever heard?

Lack of high quality public transit.
"Just drive bro"

"Capitalism isn't a big deal."
As though giving a select few billions won't corrupt the nation around them over time.
- And as a corollary, people acting how they just can't imagine how an economy could possibly work if people who do the actual work owned their means of production.

Eating meat. It contributes 15-20% of the entire planets greenhouse gasses alone. And people do it just for pleasure. It's mindboggling.
- people do it just for pleasure
  there are other reasons, and pretending there aren't won't help youconvince the people who continue to choose it.
  
  Can you... Provide some of those reasons?
- Some people would look at the oncoming environmental end of civilisation and go "ugh, another VEGAN trying to shove their ideology down my throat"
- Legalize cannibalism
  
  What consenting adults do in the privacy of their own home is not the matter of the state!
- but i have an extremely rare disease that forces me to eat dead animals, animals do it too, plants feel pain, a vegan was rude to me 10 years ago, and its not like me paying for farmers to kill animals and thus creating a demand for meat means i have a hand in it!!!!!!!!
- What? Meat provide like 90% of my protein intake. What are you suggesting here? Stop living?
  Oh yeah, you are doing fine just by eating vegetables. I don't.
  And no, I don't eat meat to have pleasure. I eat it to live.
  
  If you have non-meat alternatives that are within your means and provide the same nutritional value, and you still choose to eat meat on purpose, then it is for pleasure. But if you have a specific circumstance that is preventing you from switching to alternatives, then that's a different story.

I had a discussion/argument in ~2018 with a friend who is/was very anti-trump. I brought up the dangers of ICE and how, at the time, they were the biggest sign of an overtly fascist future. He immediately handwaved it and dismissed me as crazy.
He's got a degree in history education and was obsessed with WW2 history, so I didn't think this would be a point of contention. But for a lot of liberals (including him) Fascists have to literally be wearing a swastika before they're called what they are. Some won't even acknowledge the existence of a Nazi Salute when they see one.
Even today he's obsessed with Trump as the single anomaly in US politics and doesn't see the bigger picture.
- A force like ice is necessary though. Unregulated immigration does result in issues in the receiving country;that only works when 2 countries are economically similar. It's their use that's indictive of faciam rather than their existence imo

Pronouns. Especially bad when a 2SLGBTQIA+ person makes out like its not a big deal.
Its the most simple, base level thing you can do (using correct pronouns for someone etc). Doing it is not a big deal. Its very easy. But if you choose not to, despite how small of a deal it is, then you turn it into a very big deal.
- I don’t really care, nor do I see it like a big deal. I’ve done my best in the past, but it’s also easy to say it wrong by accident.
  Also, I don’t have the least idea what 2SLGBTQIA+ means, so I need the person to be clear with me what I should say.
  
  I mean, obviously you can't just magically know someone's pronouns. The point is that you try.

People not caring about their privacy and their data being collected and sold to everyone. "Eh, it's not like my data is worth anything". If it wasn't, it wouldn't be sold, moron. All those spam and scam calls you receive? Yeah, that's because your "worthless" data is being sold, resold and spread out everywhere. But hey, if you fall for a scam and lose, dunno, 50k dollars, it's not a big deal, huh?
- If it wasn't, it wouldn't be sold, moron.
  I think more people should be concerned about their privacy, but I don't really agree with this premise. It's kind of like if there were diamonds in some peoples trash, so a company collected everyone's trash so sift through it and take the diamonds to sell. The fact that some people's trash is valuable enough for them to do this, doesn't mean mine is.
  That's how these work, they hoover up everything and sell it in bulk. It doesn't mean any given users data is valuable. And that's why so many don't care.
  As far as scam calls go, I have a number I have never given to anyone outside immediate family, who I know haven't shared it, and still received scam calls. They just call every number, even if you don't answer. Pretty sure if it rings at all they flag it as potentially active. Sure spreading it around may increase the number, but there's no true way to hide.
- If it wasn't, it wouldn't be sold, moron.
  😂 More people should be aware of this.

When people dismiss children's concerns. Maybe to adults is not a big deal, but to kids it does matter. I make an effort to pay attention and listen when a child tells me something.
- This. Sexual abuse goes ignored because of this attitude in parents
  
  Absolutely and lets add that some children only disclose once to a trusted adult who might not always pay attention. It breaks my heart.
- I also feel particularly passionate about this, as felt totally dismissed by nearly every adult in my life as a kid. That shit feels so defeating and isolating. it can seriously fuck you up.
  
  It is. Sending you an internet Hug. You matter and should have had someone who listened to you back then. 💜
  
  as felt totally dismissed by nearly every adult in my life as a kid
  So at some point it stopped for you?
- Something I sometimes forget as well. Great reply.

Not a specific example, but it infuriates me more than anything when people say it doesn't matter that hardware, software and media are becoming increasingly dependent on an internet connection to operate.
People lack the foresight to care that the things they are paying for right now, wont last like similar things do from 10-20+ years ago.
Your old dvds, vhs, cds, vinyls, game consoles, tvs telephones.
The current implementations of these mediums have taken ownership away from the consumer, and nobody cares.
I anticipate a massive loss of historically pertinent hardware and information that will result in the new norm of paying for limited access to anything and everything.
Maximum consumption and profit, minimal preservation and environmental efficiency.
Nobody cares, like we are all slowly boiling frogs.
- not if you are a big fat P I R A T E 🏴‍☠️🏴‍☠️🏴‍☠️🏴‍☠️🏴‍☠️
  hint: be one and stop financing the slop industry
  
  I buy the games that deserve it, when i can afford it.
  Over 900 games on steam, not garbage either.
  Piracy has its place, but voting with the wallet is important too.
- These devices also collect a lot of personal data. The internet connection isn’t necessarily for the device to be useful, but rather to serve ads or sell user information to the highest bidder. Just look at how cars gather data that insurance companies buy. Or the news that Jeep were going to start displaying ads in the center console.
  
  The motives behind this or any form of planned obsolescence are various, usually greed is the reasoning central to these motives, but none of them justify the detriment to the end user(from the end user's perspective).
- To offer another perspective. I personally don't care. If everyone cared about owning the media they consume then movie theaters and libraries wouldn't exist. I grew up in the era of VHS and DVDs but I never had a collection because I rented them from Blockbuster. I also rented video games. I chose to pay for temporary access. Even today, when I pirate a movie and have a DRM free file I permanently own, I will delete the file after watching it. I don't want it.
  I get that the streaming/licensing trend sucks for people like yourself who like having a collection of physical media they own, but it honestly doesn't bother me at all.
  
  This is the exact attitude im talking about.
  Content, media, and art all Can Will and currently Does disappear FOREVER. You dont care because you got what you wanted out of it, but what about everyone else that deserves the experience?
  If the experience becomes desirable enough then yes, distributers will be happy to charge everyone again and again for it, until they deem the demand inadequate, then the content gets locked away in the vault, forgotten, deleted...
  There is no sense in this other than companies taking advantage of your complacency for profit.
  That all being said, i do appreciate you sharing your perspective.
  
  If you torrent media, you should keep it at least until you have a positive ratio. Torrenting is a group effort, and every time someone has a negative ratio, someone else needs to overcompensate for it. If you don't keep your ratios, you're also making the torrent die, which is bad for media preservation.
  
  Sounds like you were the odd one out, everyone I knew had plenty of VHS and DVD. They were a very common gift also

Trump getting elected in 2016. “The checks and balances will keep him in line” I was told.
To that I say: go fuck yourself.
- I heard a lot of "you survived the first time, it's fine," when he got reelected. Ah yes, that pandemic we all survived. The constant food recalls where none of us got sick. The uptick in gun violence that made all of us so safe and cozy. Not to mention the famously survivable ectopic pregnancies!
  No big deal indeed.
  
  For 2025: The aviation crashes and mishaps that are famously no big deal
  
  When looking at firearm homicides specifically, in terms of raw numbers (not rate), the low point was 2014, during Obama's second term. It started to move upwards in '15 and '16, prior to Trump taking office, and continued increasing at the same pace through '17. We see the first real sharp jump in '18, but then an equally sharp decline in '19, back to levels on par with Obama's last year in office, followed the next year by another sharp increase. Interestingly, Biden's 2nd year as president (2022) had the most number of firearm homicides in, I dunno, 30-odd years?
  We'd been on a long, downward trend in homicides since '92. It's not clear to me what caused the rate to begin to head back up. I don't think that Obama, Trump, or Biden can realistically be directly blamed for the bulk of it, although a small number of homicides at the margins might be more directly related to them (e.g., Trump encourages racial violence, and so a small number of homicide might be due to his tacit support). I don't think that it's directly related to economics either, because the economy that Obama inherited when he took office in 2009 had been wrecked by the housing bubble crash; it it was directly related to economics, then I would have thought that gun violence would be peaking around '09 or '10. I guess it could be a lagging indicator though? (...But there is a sharp increase in '20, when the pandemic gets really bad and unemployment hits record highs.)
  Again, keep in mind that these are homicides, and not suicides. firearm suicides still make up the majority of deaths caused by firearms in the US.
  OTOH, I understand what you mean about feeling less safe under Trump, even if there wasn't an immediate spike in gun homicides. I know a lot of people--esp. LGBTQ+ people--are feeling very unsafe with Trump in the White House right now, and I believe that they're right to feel unsafe and at-risk.
- The same people are saying the same thing this time around. It’s insane.
  
  They're doing it while seeing him dismantle those checks and balances.

thats like any conservative or liberal i try to reason with

Trump getting elected

Republicans having Senate, House and Presidency.
"Oh it's not a big deal!"
You'll be fucking lucky if you'll still be living in a home at the end of these 4 years, or with a job or living at all.

Dog poop in my car. The owner insisted it was not a big deal. I told them zero poop is allowed in my car and made them clean the seat.
- If poop is NBD to them they shouldn’t mind cleaning it.

ads based internet is the death of democracy
- Why are ads being made for the internet?

Accepting the Democrats support for the genocide of the Palestinian people just because of “voting for the lesser evil”

US War Crimes!
bUt oRaNgE mAn iS wOrSe.
Why do you think he acts like he rules the world, you wankers? cuz you've defended your presidents from any consequences, forever.
But, now you have a problem?
How does it feel like to taste your own medicine?
- Speaking of war crimes...
  I dislike US rule because it self-imposes itself over the entire world, trying to insert its media in every facet of everyone's life, its military in impoverished countries, effectively forcing them to stay poor and "not a threat to US democracy" under the guise of rescue, etc.. One state's terrorist is a people's freedom fighter. I looked back at 9/11 for example, the event they're still sensitive about. The US, through oppression and infestation, turned men into the 'terrorists' that became Al Qaeda. This narrative is retold in media, the morals and messages are retold but the public seemingly ignores it.
- How does it feel like to taste your own medicine
  Yanks aren't even tasting a fraction of it