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We keep asking why the average individuals mental health is on the decline and this is a big part of it.
Some of us have been doing this since we were children, replacing work with school. The only way you can manage all of this is by multitasking everywhere possible. You only socialize while at work or school, and all the while you're probably either working on something or you're on your phone. You clean and tidy at the same time as you cook. You speedrun your showers, a time that should be somewhat relaxing.
Even assuming you do actually get those full precious 8 hours of sleep, your brain isn't going to be rested enough.
I commute to work on foot while meditating.
Buy food on the walk home, and cook it while I socialize with my hoover.
I eat in the shower with my clothes on to avoid laundry, and I get 8 hours of sleep at work.
That way I can squeeze 2 full time jobs into one day and don't need a car, so I can afford to pay rent.
Wrong: medidate with your hoover for added oneness, socialize with your food so that you can dominate the conversation as you devour it, and do your 10,000 steps at work on your boss's face.
What's it like in 2030?
I think we should get better at budgeting our work time.
It may sound daunting at first but when you want to work eight hours, first think : "can I afford this eight hours of work? Shouldn't I rather be playing Monster Hunter?" and take good habits from there.
Maybe in the beginning try working 5 or 6 hours. Don't rush it, but keep your determination.
You'll slowly begin to perceive more opportunities as you grow in focus : "Instead of working another hour for my boss, I'll write my own TTRPG setting or hit that solo queue".
It's hard at first but others made it. Why wouldn't you?
Why are people responding to your post like it's serious? It couldn't be more obvious satire if it had a blinking neon sign that said 'THIS IS SATIRE' next to it. Sometimes satire needs the '/s', but not when it is super obvious like this.
It is satire, but we wish it wasn't and are reacting as such.
One must consider that irony is lost in text, I do suggest a THIS IS SATIRE indeed. Remember we are at the internet and X exists so, you can find the wildest shit my man
Nice jab at toxic positivity.
Indeed, this was supposed to be satire, like you know, the opposite of "budget better" corporate initiative.
Unless you're pretty advanced in your field, it can be pretty difficult to find a job that is willing to give you work hours on your terms like that.
The privilege you have that allows to think we already have control over punching the clock.
That's great go do that, what are the hourly workers going to when a reduction to 6 hours is a 25% pay cut on a wage that is about half a century behind inflation... That was before covid and the astronimical rise in cost of living recently
There's people, a fucking ton of people, because of incredibly shitty wages, that cant buy a dozen eggs without needing to work 2 hours that same reduction you just spoke of is how much they have to work just to afford that
P. S. : The sarcasm was a distant reference to this and other kinds of resembling discourse floating around today.
I wish I could, fam, I wish I could.
But in the meantime, I can write sarcastic posts for my Lemmy pals during my commute to my 8 hours of work for my boss.
Let's see. Earn a living, take care of yourself, take care of your household, and add in taking care of other people. That is only like four full time jobs.
I'm starting to understand all the poly relationships I'm seeing.
This is because domestic labor, which allows for social reproduction, is unvalued and not compensated.
But the idea of a person dedicating their life to domestic labour is becoming rare. Partly because of changing social mores but also it's difficult to support more than one person on one person's wage. I have a pretty good income but if someone else lived with me full time not contributing monetarily we'd have to be fairly frugal. But it could allow me to focus on furthering my career and making more money.
An alternative to simply paying people to maintain their own households is providing for collective housekeeping services that will do some of the work of housekeeping for people. There are examples of neighborhood laundries, grocery delivery, food preparation and distribution, lawn and handyman services and other stuff in the past.
Dermatologists have confirmed many, many times that a daily shower is unnecessary for healthy skin. Hair experts also don't recommend a daily shampoo for most people.
That said... it can be hard to tell when you stink (olfactory saturation / incrementalism)... so I don't actually have a shower schedule recommendation.
I wish I could not shower everyday. I barely sweat at all so you’d think I could, but instead my skin and hair get so oily, that I have to take a medication for it. If I don’t take it, the oil builds up on my skin and makes my eyes sting. Sometimes even just after a few hours. :(
But I am careful to not use products in the shower that would strip my hair and skin completely.
Ahh stinging eyes from face grease, how I hate you and having acne at nearly 40.
I always think it's from my haair initially too. Hey I'll put my hair up and won't have to worry about it! ow ow ow ow ow eyes ow, wash face. Ahhhhhh.
Still don't shower daily. Once every 2-3 days is good for me. 4 if I'm lazy.
Use antiperspirant correctly and if you have a sedentary lifestyle, it's an easy game unless you giant, fat, and sweaty. Usually have to be combo of 2 unless your parents rolled the genetic snake eyes and you get scumbag genetics.
You can also wash yourself outside the shower to freshen up. Saves water and is good for your skin.
Don’t get old. It’s worse.
The trick is to not actually work for 8hrs, easier said than done of course, but if you find yourself in that position then take full advantage of it. They won’t bat an eye to replace you, so don’t bat an eye to do your own thing where possible.
WFH has been a life saver honestly. I make sure to get everything that needs to be done for work done, but now if I finish my daily work or on my lunch I can do dishes, prep dinner, start the laundry. this is time that in office would spent "around the water cooler" or just wasting time. I normally get more work done when I'm at home than in the office tbh.
Yes same! I go to the gym before lunch, I can put laundry on that will finish after work, I can start dinner and leave on a slow cook... I can take deliveries, go to appointments, see my kids after school... Massive quality of life improvements for working at home.
I also appreciate being able to deal with my body when it isn't up for being out in smart clothes... Sometimes my body needs loose clothing and easy farts!
Even my sims couldn't keep up
Don't forget about your 30 minutes+ of being relaxed and mindful
I mean meditate was on there.
Nothing more relaxing and stress-free than your allotted daily 30-minute break.
Now add to that
How is that even possible? No wonder that people are having less kids
My partner had twins 15 months ago. It's been an epic couple of years.
Dripping kids from school
That's so illegal
Also handling 2 hour meltdown because you put the wrong thing in their lunchbox.
It was almost manageable when I worked from home everyday. No chance now
As a parent of 2, I wish my daily routine was this simple!
Break it out into 168 hours per week:
56 hours of sleep
45 hours of work (include the potential for working a bit longer each day)
5 hours of commuting to/from work
6 hours of exercise/gym
2 hours of grocery shopping
7 hours of cooking and other food prep
7 hours of eating
1 hour of laundry
2 hours of general cleaning around the house
2 hours of other general chores
That's 133 hours per week. You still have 35 hours for socializing, hobbies, other activities you enjoy, or just plain sitting around and relaxing (with a book, with TV, etc.) if you enjoy that. And some people can fit in part of those needs in terms of overlap: white collar jobs that don't mind if you buy something for yourself online during the day, restaurant jobs that cover a shift meal, physical jobs or commutes that reduce the amount of time you might need to get exercise outside of work, etc.
For me, I actually really enjoy cooking (and eating) so I probably spend more time on those than is strictly necessary, but it doesn't feel like work to me.
I'm probably lucky in that I spent some time working in restaurants that gave me a ton of kitchen skills (not just the actual ability to prep and cook delicious food quickly, but the sense of meal planning on a strict budget that reduces food waste), and makes me appreciate the regularity of a white collar job schedule that actually fits with circadian rhythms and the flow of the rest of society.
Kids make it harder, though. A lot of that 35 hours per week carved out gets totally eaten up with a second commute to daycare (5 hours), bedtime routines (7 hours), extracurricular weekend activities (5 hours), and extra cleaning (5 hours), a second load of laundry (1 hour), and extra chores (2 hours), leaving you with only 10 hours per week of hobbies/leisure.
At that point you've gotta find the time from somewhere. I personally dipped to 7 hours per week day of sleep around that time, dropped my gym attendance to around 3 hours per week, and started paying to outsource some of the cleaning (a weekly service) and cooking (more takeout/restaurants) and shopping (more grocery delivery).
But the magic, for me, was that my kids are really fun. They leave me with less time for other things but I love them and that part feels less like a chore. And they're a forcing function in that I have to be home when they're asleep 3-4 hours before my bedtime, when I don't have anything better to do than clean a bit, do a bit of meal prep, and watch a lot of TV with my spouse.
Cool, now can you break down Elon's week? I have always wondered how he can be CEO of two companies, be involved with five other, raise twelve children, be the top player on two major video games, be a meme lord on Xhitter, consume more ketamine than a large rave party, fix the US government, be an amazing designer, and engineering all sorts of technical things.
I'm pretty sure Elon Musk is miserable. He is always raging around, he is annoyed by the slightest critique. I bet he spends most of his free time online, reading articles about himself and hating that everyone hates him
Depending on your exercise it is also time for yourself. I really enjoy being in the gym, listening to music and exercising. Afterwards I reward myself with the Sauna in the gym which makes it even more time for myself.
Meal prep can help shift some of that burden as long as there is fridge/freezer space for some of the elements.
I shower once every 2-3 days depending on the weather and physical activity.
I'm Italian and we have bidets, so I can wash my ass and genitals there; face and, when necessary, armpits I can wash quickly in the sink.
If I don't shower after every sleep, my hair is disgustingly greasy and misshapen and I'm generally smelly. I look, smell and feel absolutely unacceptable though my standards aren't high in that regard.
I can tell whether my wife has showered because I've known her so long, but she's still entirely presentable for, if she wishes, days on end.
It's entirely unfair.
Same. It only takes me about 12 hours to go from freshly showered to glistening like a ham with grease even with minimal physical activity and moderate temps.
Before anyone gets on me about "try this different soap" or "your skin will adjust if you just start showering less", I have tried both, believe me. I have tried basically every soap on the shelf from ultra gentle barely even a soap soaps to bathing with literal surgical scrub. I have tried ultra moisturizing soaps, I have tried soaps for greasy skin and hair, I have tried medicated ones, I have tried natural ones, I have tried everything. I have also tried the "just shower less" advice. It doesn't work. I can cut my number of showers in half or even less for months at a time and my skin doesn't adjust one bit, I just get greasier, smellier, and also break out in rashes as a bonus. Some people just have really greasy skin. Also tried different diets from vegan, to keto with no change.
Your hair (actually the skin on your head) is irritated, it releases too much sebum, you should use less aggressive shampoo and start washing your hair less often. It'll be hard at first, you'll have to endure dirty hair, but after some time your sebum production will reduce and your hair will stay clean longer. You may also have dermatitis, you could go to a dermatologist.
And lower the heating in your bedroom, you don't need 23°C in there when already sleeping under a comforter, it's also better for your general health.
It is impossible. You never get to be on top of everything. Since there is always shit that needs to be done. It is often called the productivity myth. More discipline or a better system won’t lead to less work and less stress. Since new things just keep coming.
You just need to accept that life is like this and that it’s completely impossible to forever finish your todos. So therefore you should just schedule down time and don’t feel guilty that you still need to finish things since it is a never ending stream of things to do anyway. Just prioritize the most important things.
Good take.
"life isn't fair, Tetris sure isn't fair, you gotta deal with what they give you, and sometimes they give you some really hard to swallow garbage, but if you can chug through it, it makes you a winner." Thor Ackerlund, Nintendo World Champion
The 10k steps you do them while doing the other stuff lmao
You don't have to do all of that every single day
And there are weekends, holidays, etc.
Besides you can squeeze in some of these as a part of your job, like walking.
Yeah. Buy and cook bigger portions, so you don't have to do that every day. You absolutely don't need to hoover every single day like come on. Same for laundry.
I guess these are things they say need to be done, but I got the impression with how they said the hours of the day that it was stuff to be done every day, which is just ridiculous. There's not enough time even when you are being more sensible about this, but that's a good reason to try to be efficient.
Who's Hoover? Why do you have to do them?
Under US labor laws, it is more difficult to maintain one's sanity.
If you buy a tumble washer you can probably stop doing daily laundry
That requires more than one set of clothes.
This is like the opening monologue to Trainspotting
On a side note, I always thought Trainspotting was a horror film. I was very surprised to learn tons of people view it as an anthem.
I always thought it was about railway enthusiasts.
Except the punchline isn't heroin, it's just living a fulfilling life.
I take days off of work, but I'm lucky.
If the man's economy permits it, the woman can stay at home and take care of the chores for both of them. Yes, it's less money, but in exchange you have more time for what actually matters.
Just gonna point out the obvious that you may have missed... women can work while men do chores at home.
In theory. In practice that's not an arrangement most men and women prefer.
If you have some life experience with the opposite sex, you should know this.
You can downvote me all you want, once you interact with the real world many of these "progressive" ideas show themselves to be overly simplistic and ridiculous.
How about the man go stay at home too instead?
Seems a bit bad to only have one of the parents as role model. As a family person, you need both in a healthy household, provided that there's no domestic violence, dependency, or intimidation.
You can chose two. Any two, but only two.
I wanted to walk 10,000 steps and hoover but I forgot to work and now I can't afford to live in an apartment...
Meditate and Work, and read Paul Graham essays, invest in crypto, and find untapped markets in your local culture that you can corner and serve up to your betters so that you can rise up the social ladder.
Something has to give. It’s not possible to do everything every day.
The joys of living alone... I can live like a raccoon at a trash dump without anyone to judge.
My self-expectations go waaaaaay up as soon as someone is planning to visit/stayover. Laundry once every 3 weeks vs. twice a week, vacuum once a week versus every other day, wash up once or twice a week (by hand) vs. 3 times a day, throw out trash and recycling as infrequently as twice monthly (I do not produce that much waste at home) vs. every day (because of getting takeout more often). I do shower daily, before anyone accuses me of being filthy around other people.
I don't even shower every day.
Adam Ruins Everything did a whole episode on needing to shower everyday
Same here. Oh god, if I were to shower every day, my hair and skin would become super dry and it would start itching. And then after a while, my body would adapt by producing more oily stuff, which would force me to keep showering every day.
Right now I wash my hair only once or twice a week (depending) and it doesn't get greasy at all.
And before anyone says anything: DISCLAIMER: my showering habits obviously change with the seasons. Even though I don't sweat much, in summer I would feel nasty if I don't at least jump under the shower quickly twice a day or something (but just water, no products!).
You can do all that? I don’t do that in a year? And I don’t gaf is someone is visiting, if they start to complain the house is messy I tell them to feel free and start doing chores themselves.
How do you wear an amount of clothes in the span of 3-4 days to fill a washing machine?
Sweaters (for Canadian winters), work shirts and pants separate from regular shirts and pants, and PJs. In the normal schedule it piles up in the corner for up to three weeks then I do 3 or 4 loads in one session. If someone's coming I keep it in a bin but it fills up too quickly and is unsightly to me. In summer I can do it less since I wear fewer layers.
Wait: We only have to shower once‽
You don't even need to shower daily unless you get dirty.
I shower daily when I need to leave the house and interact with people. The weeks I work from home, I’ll hit shower for a week. My partner does the same thing. We’re gross. But I love their grossness.
Well 1/3 of those meals is inside your 8 hours of work
Many jobs easily hit 10k steps, if yours doesn't consider a treadmill.
Let's say 2 hrs of commute total. If your job us more than that, re-assess your choices.
Dinner can get solved by just meal prepping and thinking ahead. So 10 minutes to warm up a prepped dinner.
Breakfast is often very easy as a meal, maybe 10 minutes spent on it.
Shower is 30 minutes.
You don't need to vacuum your house every day, wtf lol.
So that still leaves you 5 hours for cleaning/tidying, and personal time.
And thats on weekdays, why do people that post this sorta stuff always glaze over weekends existing.
5 hours to live the rest of your life day to day.
What if you want to work out? That leaves 3.5 hours. 30 minutes to put together breakfast and dinner. 2.5 hours. Any errands you need to run? House or yard? Family or kids? God forbid you want to take care of yourself at all.
Yeah....their complaints are completely valid.
Because people use the weekend to recover from the week, some of us are chronically ill you know? And are trying not to have another burnout. (Yeah I already had 2 and I’m not even 40, yay capitalism)
I already covered breakfast and dinner mate.
Working out is personal time yes, you are now engaging in extracurricular activities and... what? Complaining you don't have more time for extracurricular activities because you spent your time on extracurricular activities?
You shouldn't need to run errands every single day, if that is happening that's an organizational you problem, figure your shit out better.
I already covered chores. You aren't cleaning your entire house every day, if that is happening once again that is a you problem.
Normal people maybe tops spend 20 minutes tidying per day, with one big day of tidying on weekends for 3 hours or so tops.
If you are spending more than 20 minutes tidying every single day, you need to re-assess how you live your life. Stop being so messy.
Taking care of yourself, spending time with family, enjoying life, all easily fits into 4 hours on weekdays
You then get 2 entire days on weekends to also spend an extra 8 hours+ on personal time.
I dunno what to tell you, stop mowing your yard everyday I guess? You only need to mow every 2-3 weeks?
Like wtf are you talking about lol
5 is incorrect. Most people have an unpaid lunch, not part of the 8 hour workday, so that's 4 hours left to do everything else.
Because you used your weekend researching,shopping and meal prepping, meals only take ten minutes to take out and get ready, but you skipped actually eating which is 30 minutes for dinner, and 10 for breakfast. If you have a family dinner is an hour, breakfast is 30 min. No family - 3hr20min With family -2hr30min
Housework- you say 20 minutes which for men is pretty accurate - they average 19 minutes a day, but women average 49 minutes a day. Single Men down to 3hr Women with families down to 1hr40min
The average time it takes to fall asleep is 10-20 minutes. That's not part of the 8 hours. 15min Add 15 minutes for using the toilet a day 6-7 times urinating (average) plus hand washing. Minus 1/3 happens at work. 10 min. Add 5 minutes to poop. 15min Additional grooming - the absolute minimum is to brush your teeth twice a day, dry and brush your hair, do a professional style, coordinate a professional outfit, iron, and dress. Nail clipping, sunscreen, whatever. This stuff takes time. 15 min absolute minimum a day if you have low standards for your appearance and don't have a very professional job. Up to an hour if you do. That's 45 minutes minimum (though realistically you're not doing all of that at Max efficiency every day. Single Men down to 2hr15min Women with families down to 55 min
any additional chores (maybe not daily, but at least once a week you have to do an unusual task like replacing work clothes, buying medicine, home repair/maintenance, oil change, need a coat. Maybe some weeks there's nothing, but other weeks, three things happen.
So if your boss calls you for a scheduling issue, or you want to bathe your child, or your pet throws up, you're easily down to no time at all for yourself after you've slaved away for maximum efficiency.
Forget volunteering. Forget religion. Forget getting to know your kids, or dating, or self improvement.
I cannot imagine a world where I think regular average people have enough leisure time.
I can easily see that kids will eat your time like crazy, but otherwise? I have 5-6 hours of free time a day during the week, 8hrs of work, 8hrs of sleep (including the 30-60m it takes me to fall asleep),, 30m lunch break, 2x25m commute. Like 5 mins spent making food in the evening (either just bread in which case it's even less, or just something quick like noodles. 10-15 mins if I feel like making the sauce myself). Eating is semi-free time since I'll usually watch something during. 5 mins of shopping on the way home every 2 days or so. 10 mins or so for brushing teeth in total since i tend to space out during. 1min quick shower that doesn't touch my hair. 1-2 mins brushing hair. Once or twice a week 20-30min shower including washing and drying hair to be dry enough. Take out trash like once a week takes 5 mins max.
There are some things where I save time by using money (vacuum robot, eating out for lunch, grabbing food from the bakery when I'm too hungry to skip breakfast like I usually do), but that wouldn't even add up to an hour a day.
I still think everyone should work less because imo it's very possible to do without leading to deficits in anyones life. But like wtf are people doing.
Your post glazed over:
By your own admission and being generous with the above, we spend more than 80% of our time subsisting, which becomes increasingly more difficult the less money you make. What happens to Saturday shopping and meal prep when your paycheck is monday and you had a big expense that ate up what little savings you had?
You're making the rich man's equivalent argument of "just don't be poor". Even if the numbers aren't exactly as she put it, the point remains the same. This is /r/personalfinance level disillusionment
the time it takes to use the treadmill
No, I was saying using it during work if it's a sedentary job. It's becoming pretty normalized for people to use treadmills + standing desks for a couple hours a day at their desk jobs, if needed.
I use one and easily hit 15k steps literally just sitting in on zoom meetings, for example. Makes it less boring.
banks, bills, maintenance, planning
This should be something that only comes up 1-2 times a month and takes like 5 minutes. And thats if you haven't bothered to just setup automatic payments. If you spend more than 5 minutes on this sorta stuff maybe you are just bad with tech? It's literally 6 button clicks for me to pay my phone bill right now.
the time to buy the food you want to prep (that’s if you didnt spend a considerable amount of time budgeting and couponing on this economy)
You shouldn't be grocery shopping every. sngle. day.
Maybe the reason people in here struggle so much with their time is it sounds like they have no capacity to plan out and get all there weeks worth of errands done in 1 single outting on Saturday afternoon.
I go out early Saturday, get my errands done for the whole week, and get home and meal prep it for the whole week.
I usually have an entire month of meal prep in the deep freeze of various meals. I prep a month of food each week but a different meal, that way I usually have 4-5 totally different things in the freezer to mix and match.
Then all my meals take literally 3 minutes to warm up anytime I wanna save time.
I still make nice meals, usually on days where no other tasks were needed and I have extra time.
What happens to Saturday shopping and meal prep when your paycheck is monday and you had a big expense that ate up what little savings you had?
I've been deeply entrenched in poverty. I worked as a dishwasher in kitchens for 5 years getting myself through school. I had barely anything to my name, I lived in a shit apartment, I didn't own a vehicle, I didn't even own a bike for awhile.
I still had no issues saving my money and setting funds aside.
Every. Single. Person. I have ever met who complained about money, and I met countless people working in kitchens over 5 years, from all walks off life, all had 1 thing in common.
They spent money in really stupid fuckin shit. They talked about how they had no money but they smoked or drank, or drove to work from 20 blocks away, or got speeding tickets, or smoked weed, or went out partying every weekend, or showed up to work with a monster energy drink and a pepperoni every morning, etc etc etc etc.
You know how many fuckin meals you can make yourself for the same cost as one energy drink a day?
I have never met someone who complains about money that I haven't been able to point out dumb shit I personally watched them buy.
But I point that out and I'm the asshole. Dude. Just fuckin stop buying stupid shit, stop wasting your money.
At first I really thought some people just truly were fucked but... no, I saw way way way to many people living life like this to just realize that... no.
The average person os stupid as fuck when it comes to managing their money. They'll drop $4 on a single energy drink and then complain that potatoes are $1.75 now.
B r u h.
Man, life would be so much easier if I liked the taste of boot half as much as you do.
The other comments summed up the fallacies of your "argument" nicely, so no need to repeat them.
Maybe just get good?
If i didn't have any free time to myself possible when I was making minimum wage, how'd I manage to full clear so many video games while putting myself through school, or watch... God I actually don't think I could count how many seasons of anime.
Guess it was all just a dream?
To be honest I've found the more money I make the less time I have, cuz I keep buying shit that takes up more and more of my time. I should probably consider decluttering a bit...
From 6am to 6pm every action I have to take is in service of the job I have. My alarm goes off because I have to be up for my job, I need to shower and do all my morning routine stuff for my job. I am out the door just after 7 to have enough time to snag a breakfast sandwich and some bottled tea for breakfast, for a 45 min commute into work, work for about 4 hrs, get an hour for lunch where about 10 minutes is spent walking from my desk somewhere nearby for food, about 40 minutes for ordering, waiting for and the eating food for the same ~10 min walk back to the office for another about 4 hrs of work before the ~15 min it takes to pay for parking and leave the building for another 45 min commute putting me back home at about 6pm before I change into my comfy clothes. Now. I have less than 4 hours before the exhaustion finally fully sets in an I go to sleep. And some dinner would be nice so that's another hour or more.
From 6am to 6pm every action I have to take is in service of the job I have
That's not a job anymore mate, ngl.
I hope it brings you an extremely deep sense of fulfillment, joy, and satisfaction.
Or it pays you enough money you can retire by the time you are 30.
Or it's one of those "1 month on 1 month off" kinda jobs.
Otherwise wtf.
A few points-
My job is at a computer. A height adjustable desk and a walking treadmill have revolutionized my life, so good call there.
Shower may be 30 minutes, but you forget the time it takes to mentally prepare to shower. You forget the time spent staring at yourself in the mirror going over every flaw and or singing and dancing. And then once in the shower the time it takes to stand under the hot water and go over old arguments to come up with the ideal comebacks you should have said. When else am I supposed to do that. Though lately I've been using my tablet to watch TV in the shower, so this increases my shower time to about 40 minutes, but I also knock watching TV shows off my list. That was on the list right?
Most people probably don't have to vacuum every day. personally my family keeps bringing home animals. Animals with hair. I've found I do need to vacuum every day and it's still not enough and all my clothes are always covered in cat hair and they get into my feet as sharp little hair splinters. Please send help.
If you live alone then sure that leaves you five hours. If you have kids you'd better spend those five hours with your family! You get maybe one hour after they go to bed, if you're lucky and they went to bed on time and stayed there. You're probably going to need to take the time away from sleepy time.
And weekends are when you make up for that sleep deficit. Oh wait, you can't. The kids get up early and need breakfast. The dogs need to eat and go out. Your wife made plans for all of you. Enjoy your day with the in-laws. What was that you were saying about glazing over?