Lemmy is a worse platform for women than Reddit wasEDIT this link is an OLD POST that contains my thesis on the state of lemmy and is not the context of the much more recent comment in the screenshot. sorry for any confusion caused by this juxtaposition, my main goal with having this linked is to expose how nothing has improved
An interesting variation on this I've heard that I think illustrates why it's so inflammatory (and thus my issue with it even if I agree fully with what it's saying) is changing it to whether you'd feel more comfortable with a Christian or Muslim at night in the woods.
Like I used to be racist against Russians because I'm Russian originally and I've tons of lived experience around Russians and I would sooner pick just about any other nationality before Russians to be around, I'm justified in this just as I'm justified in feeling that way about men, but at the same time, it's no less inflammatory to say.
It's all just ragebait. That's why unlike many nuanced feminist arguments or discussions about male violence you've actually heard of it and see it on the internet, it generates engagement. Doesn't excuse the harassment, but it explains it. Is it really so productive to get worked up all the time?