Super hero movies should have more scenes of them accidentally maiming people just because of the sheer amount of power they weild.

Watch The Boys for exactly that. You won't get that from Disney.
- Also the Invincible animated series does it too.
  
  I totally agree with both your comments, but to be fair, they said "movies".
- Maybe season 1 of the boys. It devolves into disgust porn in the later seasons.
  
  I made it to the first episode of season 3. It was just trying way too hard at that point to not be a show anymore but pure shock value

Watch The Boys.
- And Invincible
  
  Came here to say both of these lol.
- But even in The Boys it’s just the bad guys doing that.
  The dark reality is that the good guys need to watch themselves too.
  
  Super Crooks has this, iirc there's even a comment at one point about the heroes having a bigger body count than the villains.

It always bugged me how in Man of Steel, Superman has to deal with the moral quandary of breaking the bad guy’s neck at the cost of vaporizing a family.
Like they spent the previous 20 minutes punching each other through buildings. No way that was the first family they killed.
- I've missed a lot of DC movies, but wasn't Ben Affleck's Batman inspired to come out of retirement due to this ... Or something like that? I might be completely bungling the details.
  
  Yeah, more or less. Then they stop fighting because both of their moms are named Martha. That movie is one of the worst things ever created.

I think Hancock had a few instances of that
- Never got around to that one, worth it?
  
  Critically panned, across the board, but I enjoyed it nonetheless. It could have done with another couple of rounds of script polishing.
  
  It's not a good movie but it's a fun watch if you're not expecting much.
  
  It's okay, not memorable though. I can't seems to recall anything from that movie but i do remember i have fun watching it.
  
  Have it on in the background.
  I never fully understood Katherine Heigl's character and her point in the plot.
  It's decent. Not great.
  
  I wanted to like the movie, but drunk will smith just didn't do it at all for me.
  
  The first 2/3rds of the movie is really good. The last part is pretty bad. Overall I enjoyed it.

I feel like I live in a world made of cardboard, always taking constant care not to break something, to break someone. Never allowing myself to lose control even for a moment, or someone could die.
- Love this scene
  
  It’s good, but upon re-watching it now from when I first watched it, and thinking a little differently about it - Superman talks about needing to be careful to not hurt people and cause deaths. Then he proceeds to put Darkseid through several buildings that obviously weren’t evacuated, followed by punching him so hard he goes through a couple layers of earth and totally destroys a bunch of infrastructure. He essentially shows his power and ignores everything he just said.
  I still love seeing Superman let loose and fuck Darkseid’s shit up though. 😂

They cut all such scenes and pasted into The Boys, in a Mark Twain style “Sprinkle these around as you see fit!”.

Perhaps they are going for a tone of heroic escapism, or fantastical drama over gory and downbeat "realism".
If you really just want to see heroes maiming people it's been done. Invincible, The Boys (show and comic). Even back to the 90s there were comics like Stormwatch that centered on the premise of "realistic" consequences of super powers.
- Aye, it's all about what theme you're exploring or mood that's being set. We don't have batman exploding into mist when he fights people who can lift planes/cruise ships with their bare hands, because that's not the story being told. When the theme is about the consequences of powers, rather than the escapism and being good (the 'super' part of superman being his morals and convictions), we get the boys and their (gory) explosions.
- The web serial Worm by Wildbow, written like 10-15 years ago maybe, is also a pretty good superhero deconstruction.

Didn't The Incredibles have a backstory like that where supes are basically illegal after they caused too much collateral damage?
- Mr. Incredible is sued for stopping a man's suicide and injuring him instead.
  In a Disney film.
  This is explicitly stated, to the camera, within the first 5 minutes.
  Holy shit Disney, you hadn't "Up'd" us yet, chill
  
  It’s also got some somewhat overt Objectivist messaging? Syndrome’s line: “when everyone is super, no one will be.” is fascinating.
  Like, you can make an argument that a major message of the film is that some people are born special and more capable than others, and should be alotted special privileges. Syndrome isn’t one of the golden few, and rather than accept that, he attempts to democratize super powers to some extent (although because he’s the bad guy, part of his plan is making money from this).
  I love the film, I just get some odd vibes from it at times.

Invincible covers this a lot.
It's a major plot point in avengers as well, tbf, and why they spit up.
- I loved the first season of invincible. The thought came after watching a gif of captain America splitting a log with he bare hands. Like there should be PPE for just being around a super hero. He split that log with enough force to send a splinter strait through someone skull.
  Like deku in my hero flicks air to create a pressure wave that can propel him into the sky. The insane amount of force at play should have more collateral damage.
  
  Him splitting that log with his hands was safer to stand near than someone hitting it with a maul, which is how it’s usually split.
- The Avengers story was just annoying. They literally saved the earth from complete enslavement to an alien invasion, and they must be held accountable for the damage they caused while doing that? Come the fuck on! They didn’t cause that damage, the alien invasion did. Tony and Bruce are supposed to be like the smartest people in the entire world, and neither of them could respond with that basic logic? I hate that fucking storyline.
  
  New York is all the Asgardians' fault. If Thor hadn't gotten himself exiled, Loki wouldn't have come to Earth and found the Tesseract, so no invasion.
  Sokovia, though, is all Tony's fault. He built and released an unaligned superhuman AI agent. (Don't do that, folks; it predictably breaks the planet.)

Someone did an analysis of what would happen if Superman actually punched you at full strength, and it turns out his fist would never connect with you, because you’d be vaporized by the wave of nuclear explosions erupting from his knuckles as they caused air molecules to fuse in nanoseconds.

I mean this is how Civil War and Age of Ultron comes about?

I think Zach Snyder tried for this in Batman v Superman but of course he did so with no appreciation of the themes or subtlety. And Martha.
- Why did you say that name?

Brightburn. I haven't seen it (yet), but alternate universe where Superman becomes evil. Trailers showed him absolutely wrecking his classmates in anger and frustration.
- That movie is pretty fucked, but in a weird way that makes it good? Like it's kinda weird seeing Elizabeth Banks and that one guy from The Office being the parents, but they do a good job.
  There's one scene in particular that kinda fucked me up, but you haven't seen it so I won't tell you.
- Ooh! This sounds great! I’m going to look it up right now.

Misfits is not really what you're asking for, but is a more light hearted a-typical superhero show about people who were sentenced to community service all accidentally gaining super powers. They mostly use their powers selfishly but not in evil ways. It's pretty well done as far as character growth
- This was a great show.

Irredeemable covers this.
While only a comic its a fantastic telling of a superhero going insane and the others trying to stop him. The Plutonian levels whole cities and kills millions in the first issue lol. It's fucking wild.

Exploring the failed attempts and the real struggles of being a hero.

Man of Steel Woman of Kleenex by Larry Niven is a weird take on this

Watch Bully Maguire

We do know from the 80’s movies that Clark Kent couldn’t be with Louis while he was human. I guess he’d accidentally kill her while humping? They never really say why he can’t be with her, just that he can’t.
- I kinda assumed it was the spider man type explanation where them being together would put her in constant danger