for that to have a chance of helping you have to have some expectation of it being possible in the first place and i don't understand how false hope is supposed to help.
Exactly what part of this is toxic positivity? This is about acceptance and control. Toxic positivity is when someone smiles at you and insists you play nice as they trample on your rights. You're just being a miserable shit who feels offended by being called out on it. In fact I contest the positivity part more than the toxic part - I don't mind being toxic; think you're a right git!