so seepy eeepy what cn we saysss,, awrffff,,,,, zzzzz :3

Yay I'm glad!

One other thought on this same line of thinking, when I first told my therapist one of his first questions was my sexuality. And I've kinda been worried every time since someone would ask but thankfully they haven't 😅

So happy for you and so proud of you!!

Hell yeah me too comrade!

Something similar happened to me once. I was at a small festival with 3 other people, one of whom knew that I was trans, because I told them right before that. We were just talking about the usual stuff until suddenly the 2 that didn’t know started shitting on Rowling and talking about trans stuff.

I was completely baffled by that, because I’ve never seen cis people bring that up by themselves, not even today. I just stood there and said nothing, while they continued. I was absolutely sure that the 3rd person must have outed me beforehand, and that the others just said that to make me feel more at ease.

But as it turned out, it was just a really weird coincidence and me not expecting such a thing ever happening because I live in a conservative area where trans stuff is ignored for the most part.

Yeah, I came out to everyone as NB, but I skipped right to she/her

Kind of regretting getting mine

It's always a gamble with the cis, but being queer increases their chance of being supportive.

You also don't have to worry about things like your shave. You can say that you're not safe at home to transition, so you may not look it, but you're a trans girl.

It would be nice to be around someone who knows who you are at work.

After that, if you feel safe, you can talk name and pronouns with her.

Reminds me of this time I was going to the restroom, and there was this old white dude behind me going there, too. I was thinking that he was just going to wait his turn and go in after I left, but when we got to the bathroom doors, he just tries to go into the men's restroom first, and I let him. I wait outside for him to get out, and he sees me standing there and says, "Oh, you were trying to use the men's restroom?" with a pretty baffled face and tone. And I just responded with a masculine voice and said, "Yeah..."

What gets me is that this was much earlier on in my transition.

On this note, fuck these gendered single-person restrooms especially.

Im a "special little drink" person, I switch it up all the time and have month long obsessions with tea, coffee, energy drink, soup, whatever. Its an aspect of being genderfluid for me😎

an aeropress and either a grinder and beans or a good quality ground coffee is all you need

Get into monster, especially those pink ones

NO! DON’T YOU FUCKING DARE! You want to become one of those hipster nerds who buys extremely expensive gear, just because this James Hoffmann super nerd told you it would make your oh, so special(ty) coffee a little bit better? Are you willing to learn Eyetalian because everything is named in this cursed language? Do you not have any qualms about roasting beanis and turning it into a juice instead of worshipping it like a normal person? Of course not, don’t be silly.

Avert your eyes from this abomination and instead gaze upon your true destiny: Tea

::: spoiler only open this if you truly want to embrace enlightenment Imagine sitting in your peach garden with your trusted gaiwan in front of you. Today you want to try some of your favourite roasted tieguanyin. You could have chosen a nice honey Jin Jun Mei, or a well-aged sheng-puerh whose leaves have been collected from 500 year-old tea trees, but today you want to be kissed by the Iron Goddess of Mercy.

You let your almost boiling water fall upon your precious leaves and wait for them to infuse the crystal-clear water. With an elegant but quick motion you pour your heavenly-smelling tea into your gong dao bei and then into your smaller teacup, both of them handmade with a celadon glaze that is redirecting the sunrays to your eyes with a beautiful light-blue shimmer.

As you get your face closer to your cup, you get a hint of the lovely aroma that starts to fill your nostrils. You get hints of butter toffee, dark chocolate and bit of nuttiness. Of course you have to wait for it cool down first before you taste it, so you pull out your bamboo scroll and start reading ancient Chinese philosophy.

After a few minutes you finally get to enjoy this liquid treasure. As it fills your mouth, you get all of the aroma that you smelled previously, but a lot more intimately. Purely divine. A big smile starts forming on your face as you know that today you have been blessed by Heaven. Because this was just the first steep, and there’s many more to come.

awwwrruuf!!

I'm sure you'll look cute

LETS FUCKING GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

So glad for you!

Hurray!

Congrats!! Excited for you!!

I'm seedable, but you've got to plow me first.

It says you wanna be bred

Basically any resource for haircare can apply to us too. The only transfem-specific things I've seen recommended is to have hair covering your hairline (either bangs or part the hair in a way that can cover them) and my stylist's suggestion of shorter face framing tendrils to make a person's face seem more round. Also definitely go to either a trans-affirming stylist or nice hair salons that cater to women, since they'll cut your hair in femme ways that you wouldn't get at barbershops.

Pretty cool. Looking forward to E 2.

Me. It's lovely, every moment and every change is blissful euphoria.

I don't know but I hate T to death. So hopefully.

the hormone or the letter?

big fan of both tbh

Bi-Cycle, lfg

Think a lot of it is just getting back into fitness with the single minded devotion

Honestly I'm pretty sure femininity is 99% eyebrows. I look so good after I get them threaded.

i've only read norwegian wood, and jesus christ the guy does not understand or value women at all

I think I've read 4 or 5 Murakami novels and a short story collection, and I did enjoy them but I don't really have a desire to read more of his stuff.

My favorite was definitely 1Q84, which is partly because it has a female main character in addition to the divorced/single lonely guy that's the main character in all his stories, and partly because it was the first thing I read by him so everything seemed new. All his other stories kind of just mush together in my brain and it's difficult for me to separate between them.

His style is very distinctive, which I like, but it feels like he's written the same book over and over with just some minor variations, which gets boring after a while.

I had to put 1Q84 down partway through. It was well done but stressing me out too much.

Ugh. Even forgetting the chatgpt thing, I did a group assignment a few years ago where one of the obvious tasks to carve off and split the work up was way smaller than the rest, so I volunteered to do it and also take everyone else's notes and write the rest of the report from that (so they would still do the most labour intensive part, but my contribution would be somewhat more even, worked pretty well) and I felt bad about reworking people's writing in that context. I can't even imagine taking someone else's work and doing anything more than basic spelling and grammar edits.

In my more charitable moments I think chatgpt does have its uses (and it's apparently not as wasteful as I had been led to believe in terms of energy use), but stuff like this and all the lawyers apparently using it to do their job really make me question that instinct.

Utterly disgusting. I assume your school policy/prof is pro-AI? If not I'd just tell the prof and watch the fireworks

Well, if you can find women's pants and shirts for your work that can be a small affirming thing and no one will be able to tell. If your hair is long enough you can try styling it sometimes at home. If you are alone/safe at home you can also just get whatever clothes you want to experiment with, preferably by thrifting so that it's cheap and you don't feel as bad if a piece doesn't look great (but I understand that can be stressful so if it's too much buying online is fine too)