A lot of people already use Discord. If you try to get people to move to Lemmy, the vast majority of them won't bother, and then you just have a version of reddit with about twelve people on it. Reddit thrives on scale and collective knowledge. If you're going to have a small community with three digits' worth of people, a chat service is the place to do it.
I'm part of a couple of private men's style discords... one of them is a great, small-but-not-too-small community, and the conversation is much better than anything that went on on /r/malefashionadvice.
Hi there! Looks like you linked to a Lemmy community using a URL instead of its name, which doesn't work well for people on different instances. Try fixing it like this: !malefashionadvice@lemmy.world