Note that the removed comments that triggered this have since been restored: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2097409
Looking at the comment history of the involved users the second comment from Nakoichi is referencing a different comment thread (https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2097384). While I don't agree with the initial take, it didn't need to be removed at all, much less with that reason.
Moderation decisions are often contentious, especially when communities are as idiosyncratic as 196. The thing to do is first to cool off a bit, then to have a dialogue, first with the other users involved in the thread and then possibly with the mods.
That’s not the path this gentleman took. No, he charged into the meta community calling the mod ableist, racist and a chaser enabler and demanding his removal. That’s just not how we do things here. That path only leads to more acrimony.
This is bad, but then it got a lot worse. He whipped his entire instance into a huge frenzy, leading to dogpiling and defederation.
These guys are simply not able to work through disagreements in a productive manner. And they create disagreements for sport.
So yes, moderation on 196 could be better. I’m sure they learned a lesson from this. But everything that happened after the initial mod decision rested squarely on the shoulders of Nakoichi and the admins of hexbear.