What's an inappropriate question you've been wanting to ask but haven't found the chance or place to?

I think it's very possible to have a good LTR after having passionate sex on the first date. I know people say to make the guy wait to weed out guys just looking to score.

And you have to blame the right and people like Andrew Tate for men not communicating or opening up. They tell men they are not supposed to.

I never waited for sex, my feeling is that I want a man who likes sex, not a man who is into "the chase", and I value sexual chemistry, and feel the physical intimacy is the shallower level of intimacy. It certainly has not prevented me from finding good long term guys, no. I had one 20 year run, and have been with my husband for about 12 years now.

I guess I am way more interested in weeding out those guys who like the buildup better than sex, because they are the ones who lose interest after you have sex, or who think the first time is the best.

I know several happily married couples with kids and everything, that started as friends with benefits or even just sex. As in basically sex before the first date. So yeah, totally possible.

For your second question, the easy answer is that it's how they were taught they are supposed to be. On purpose or not. Maybe both parents didn't like talking about emotions with "a boy" or with anyone, and now they are not used to it and barely have the language to talk about it. Or maybe something made them believe that their emotions are unusual, weird or even wrong, and choose not to share. I guess it's very individual.