Not a lady but I have ADHD and have found smart lightbulbs that turn on at a granted time more effective at waking me up. Waking up @ 5 am = miserable. Waking up @ when it's light (5 am alarm) = do able.
I use blackout curtains like you too (used to do 3rd shift). Let me know how it works out if you try it. Could be just a me thing, but I hope it works for others too.
It also helps that they can do variable color temps. Cool blue (day light) vs warm yellow (candlelight) has a massive impact on energizing me too.
Can confirm, I usually use the app that also comes with automation so that at the time the alarm goes off the light slowly turns on then after a set time it turns off, it's great to give me a perception of time and know when I should've already left the room.
Same (sunlight alarm clock, getting up super early to compensate, and male) but also I have a heater on a timer-socket. When its super hot and bright its hard to stay in bed.