You can't get it wrong, because half the fun of the game IMO is trying to play with awful characters that screw up all your plans.
If you're looking for a "paint the map one colour" strategy game, there are better options, but if you want to play game of thrones with heresies, inheritance wars, inbreeding and all of the other fun stuff, this is the game :)
Ha ha no you're underestimating my incompetence. I meant I literally can't figure out how to operate it.
I'm the kind of person that spends hours making untouched wild lion protection areas in Age of Empires, I would be thrilled to have an inbred dynasty who sends a horse as an ambassador. I just can't seem to get it going!