1w ago

I hate allos and their sexualization of any kind of relationships and everything in general (rant)

As an asexual, I've already talked about how frustrating it is to see how everything's sexualized, but I wanted to talk about other specific stuff and I'm sure other aces will agree with me.

It's honestly so annoying that 2 people of either gender can't be close together without other people thinking that they're totally married or in a relationship and shit. This happened to me personally already, some absolute sickos paired me and my sister after seeing us for the first time just because we were sitting together. I've also had many friends of opposite gender and same thing happened to my brother also, we couldn't even hug our friends without getting the looks

My mother(who is straight and also finds this annoying) talked to us about this and said that this became even worse during recent years and that especially before people used to be a lot more closer with each other in friendly relationships, kisses and hugs were normal friendly gestures. Also for example, she slept(key word: slept) in the same bed with her friends of both genders during high school on sleepovers and she isn't bi, same thing with me as an ace.

Eastern Europe is another special case for close relationships and gestures in terms of hugging, kissing etc (cough Fraternal kiss cough) and some older people especially are so used to it and is completely normal for them.

Allos are generally so annoying about this, they'll watch a movie and see 2 completely random characters and then talk on and on about what would be if these 2 got in a relationship, even if the characters just stood in the same room next to each other or the media is not related to romance at all.

I mean, they sexualized fucking vampires over time, as someone from Balkans, this irks me on so many levels because these things were disgusting non-rotting corpses which spread plague, transformed into shit like bats, insects, rodents etc and drained people. Like no sir, if they were real, they wouldn't be interested in any kind of relationship with you, they'll see you as bloodbag and drain you dry if you didn't already die of plague they brought beforehand.

Same thing goes for many other things which allos sexualized or see in sexual way, be it friendly gestures, closeness with family and friends or just generally normally being together or spending time with someone. Real life isn't a drama TV show where everyone's cheating everybody and sleeping around with anyone they know or meet.

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I think allos (myself included) ship other people so we can live vicariously through them. I don't have time or energy for a romantic relationship RN, but watching others get together is kinda fun.
This practice is kinda harmless for fictional characters (and romantic subplots are usually the norm in said shows), but can definitely make IRL aces uncomfortable. Sorry about that, we should probably stick to fictional characters only.
I think vampires (specifically the hot mysterious dude kind of vampire) are popular mostly because they fulfill a certain niche of romantic fantasy. This niche used to be filled by the plethora of romance novels, which are mostly consumed by women. Today, romance novels have been supplanted by many more types of content, including stuff about vampires. Also, you can't really blame normal, horny people for thinking about banging anything. R34 is a thing for a reason.
- yesterday's romance novels are today's ao3 fanfics
  
  Pretty much, yes. Having read both, the horny energy is exactly the same.
- Also, you can’t really blame normal, horny people for thinking about banging anything
  Wanna bet?
- It's weird obsession, especially when media has nothing to do with it, but extremely weird and creepy when done on real people, same thing for random people from historical photos. Yeah just stick to ficitonal.
  It irks me on so many levels because these things aren't really the peak of sexual or romantic appeal, they aren't even human in the first place, they were quite literally walking non-rotting corpses who saw humans in the same way predator sees it's prey, they also brought plague wherever they went. I get liking romance novels, but liking monsters in that kind of way is just, wtf... Like, if they existed, they would either barge into your house by night or chase you down the field to drain your entire blood system, many times while transofmred into either a bat, wolf, hyena, fox, insects, rat or owl.
  
  I'm not sure how it developed to the airbrushed-looking Hollywood kind of vampire, but I suspect that kind of vampire portrayal has something to do with the whole "eternal love" theme in romance. Especially people at the height of romantic affection, may feel like they want to be with the person forever. So then you combine that with an immortal vampire who can turn others into vampires by biting them and you have a formula for eternal love. But as many stories that involve "cheating death" go, there has to be a catch, a tradeoff, some sort of consequence of trying to cheat death. So with vampires, it can be that they're demons and the tradeoff is you lose your humanity; what you thought would be eternal love turns out to be a farce.
  
  Vampires are the ultimate bad-boy romantic aesthetic. How skilled at romance must a woman to wrap an immortal being around her finger? In that sense it's kinda empowering.
  Right now, werewolf romance novels are rather popular on reddit romance novel communities. This is the exact same kind of dude as a vampire except you also get animalistic boinking.
  
  Werewolf is even more wild since... it's literally zoophilia. Werewolves in legends went on man-eating rampages after transformation, often wiping out most of the the village they were in and had no sense of control outside of human form. And they quite literally ate babies.
  
  Honestly I don't know either, I think that it started with Interview with the Vampire with Tom Cruise, then it just got worse with movies after that and of course Twilight. Turning others into vampires didn't involve any kind of love originally(even towards other vampires let alone humans), they were just spreading the disease and making more vampires, which also acted like predators towards humans and mostly didn't remember their past life so idk why would anyone want that. I can see the immortal thing but there are like, much better ways to become immortal in mythology than becoming undead bat-like predator. Also, they aren't demons, they're just undead humans who raised from the grave.
  
  That might be a major place the romanticizing of it started. I know there's also been The Vampire Diaries (never watched it, but I believe that's got romanticizing going on, of sorts). The demon thing, I'm not sure who started it, but some stories portray them as demons, such as in the TV show Buffy the Vampire Slayer (in that one, they have a demon form and a prettified form, so they can appear conventionally attractive to lure people in but are grotesque underneath).
  
  Yeah I've heard of it, it definitely made it worse. I've also heard of Buffy but know nothing about it, they probably just used the terms since the word demon is sometimes used on fictional things that aren't actual demons, just the name, like Demon Bear from X-Men. Demons are fallen angels from religion, vamps are undead humans. It's honestly ridiculous that only 21th century vampire media I've consumed are Shiki and RE Village.

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