May I be blunt? I don't think that anyone still moderating Reddit has a shred of dignity, decency, or concern about their userbase. As such this shit will pass and nobody there will care.
The guy who admin my lemmy instance is also the mod of r/Brasil and he and the Brazilian mod team worked a lot to avoid the subreddit to become an alt-right shithole like the rest of country subreddits (the losers from the alt-right national subreddit even had to pay for reddit ads to try to funnel user there).
Well, at least here we can talk about Voldemort without evoking him, right? (Unless this shit is like Betelgeuse - on the third time you mention his name, he pops up to ruin your day.)
Okay, serious now: that's sensible since in r/brasil it would be basically advertisement.
They were also the "Freeze Peach"(TM) subreddit, and if you dare to talk about how they let racism, transfobia and other shit pass on they would ban you even if you never commented on their subreddit.
So long as we're being blunt, this criticism can be levied at Lemmy too. There is less accountability here and your only option is to 'find a similar federated community' because nobody seems to want any kind of accountability or standards in the mods. Well, you have basically 2 major communities and both of them are equally stupid but in opposite directions. Viable option indeed.
The one that I'm talking about is Reddit admins being clearly hostile towards the community, including mods, and the mods still being willing to lick the admins' boots, instead of migrating their comms to another site. Even at the expense of the userbases of the subreddits that they moderate.
Here in Lemmy this shit does not roll - both because it's easier to migrate comms across instances, and because the userbase is mostly composed of people with low tolerance towards admin abuse.
Now, regarding the problem that you've spotted: yes, it is a problem here that boils down to
Lack of transparency: plenty mods and admins here have a nasty tendency to enforce hidden rules - because actually writing those rules down would piss off the userbase.
Excessive polarisation and oversimplification of some topics, mostly dealing with recent events. (Such as the one that we both were talking about not too long ago.)
I am really not sure on how to compare the extent of both issues in Lemmy vs. Reddit, nor how to address them here, and thus to get rid of the problem that you're noticing.