Drone Rights

I made peace with someone! In the past, LinkOpensChest and I had quite the aggressive tussle over whether communists should vote for biden in the general election. Proof:

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If you're interested in fighting, you can go find that conversation yourself and see the full context. But this post is about positive change, which is that us two are no longer fighting! Now I just have to do the same with everyone else who has a problem with me.

A lemmy.dbzer0.com admin by the handle of Unruffled, actual username @Flatworm7591@lemmy.dbzer0.com, posted an ableist comment today in relation to a ban decision.

Unruffled's explanation for the ban is that people with narcissistic personality disorder are not a victimised demographic, and that when pwNPD claim to be marginalised, this is an abuse tactic.

Wikipedia says on its page for NPD:

> It is often comorbid with other mental disorders and associated with significant functional impairment and psychosocial disability.[1]

People with NPD are significantly functionally impaired, and psychosocially disabled. I could bring up a half dozen corroborating sources, but I'll skip that for now.

Now, the fact that people with the disability known as NPD suffer unfair hatred shouldn't be a controversial statement. A great example is the stereotype that pwNPD are abusive, and everything they do is a manipulation. This stereotype is massively damaging. In fact, if you have NPD and you look to Google for resources on dealing with your disability and improving your mental health, the first result you'll get is sources on how you're an evil abuser and resources for people who've been abused by you.

This is a significant barrier to treatment. In addition to the physical difficulty of finding resources by sifting through the hate, it can provoke feelings of shame and defensiveness, and drive people to avoid or distrust all online resources about their disability. And, like autism, a lot of the disability of NPD comes from other people's intolerance. The idea that we're all abusers primes people to see and choose aggression when dealing with us. It starts fights, it gets people hurt, it turns out lives into one big punching match.

The fact Unruffled engaged in this counterfactual stereotype while denying basic medical facts about a disability is troubling. It's my opinion that db0 should have a long conversation with Unruffled about sensitivity towards disabled people. Ideally, Unruffled would come away feeling ashamed of their behaviour and with a resolution to do better. But in the event Unruffled is unruffled by the conversation and unwilling to improve their behaviour, they should be banned from lemmy.dbzer0.com immediately for clear hate.

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https://lemm.ee/post/20863783?scrollToComments=true

Stamets just posted a meme complaining about the fact women think they have unrealistic body image to meet, in comparion with men. Stamets thinks the mean women are wrong to make light of men's problems with constantly being told they're ugly by the media. Because Stamets is a misogynist.

https://lemmy.world/comment/6513421

@Stamets@lemmy.world is a horrible person. Today we're going to ignore his lesbophobia and transphobia and focus on this comment here, where he calls me a slur, and claims I've been banned from every major instance for being disabled.

First off: Stamets is a bad-faith liar. I have never been banned from lemm.ee. And I have never been banned from anywhere for any kind of hate.

Second off: Stamets is correct to say I've been banned from some instances for being disabled, but the fact he's gleeful about this is because he's an ableist.

Third off: Stamets is terrible at spelling. DroneRights only has one S in it. The reason Stamets seems illiterate is that he's too busy orgasming at the thought of calling me a slur to pay attention.

Fourth off: Slurs are bad. I have narcissistic personality disorder. It's a mental disorder. It's a disability. Stamets knows I have it. He intends to insult me by calling me mentally disordered. He doesn't say "You're a person with NPD", because that makes it sound bad to discriminate against me. He uses the shortened form of my disability, the N slur, in the same way he might call a person with autism an a\*tist, or a person with intellectual disability (AKA mental retardation) a r\*tard.

He means to insult me for being disabled, because he hates disabled people. He is willing to lie as much as it takes to hurt a disabled person for being disabled.

https://hexbear.net/comment/4450879

My alts @exocrinous@lemm.ee and @CannotSleep420@lemmygrad.ml were recently banned from Hexbear due to a conversation I sockpuppeted them through. My close friend @ashinadash@hexbear.net was not banned, but did have her comment removed for saying she wished I hadn't been banned. According to the mods, Ashina was "relitigating old struggle session and general meta drama" by simply expressing that she liked me, without any call to action or confrontation with anyone. Apparently, just saying she liked me was against the rules. As we all know, I was banned from Hexbear for saying gender neutral pronouns exist and whiteness is a social construct, so this is a further escalation from the Hexbear admins into attacking even simple association with leftist figures.

An anonymous admin on Beehaw banned me for being "pompous". In both my comments I was being fully cooperative and doing whatever the other person wanted me to do. However, the symptoms of my narcissistic personality disorder were visible in the way I spoke. I was visibly narcissistic. My symptoms didn't affect my behaviour or how I treated others, they were just cosmetic. And the verdict from the Beehaw admins is that visibly having NPD is unacceptable. I think this isn't nice, and I think it discourages diversity.

> Of note, we’ve never banned a single person without openly discussing what happened with other individuals who participate in this community1 and asking for their input. We can’t promise this will always be the case, but we can promise that we’ll be open to having a discussion with any community member who feels that something unjust happened with another person or to themselves.

This excerpt is in the page "Beehaw is a community", and it shouldn't be. It's not true anymore.

> What is Expected of Community Moderators? > Encourage and promote respectful and constructive discussions, and address any behaviour that goes against our community’s spirit to be(e) nice. > Assist people by answering their questions, offering guidance, and helping them navigate the platform effectively, ensuring they feel heard.

Deleting the thread in which this happened and all records of it on the site doesn't promote constructive discussions. Making it against the rules to tell someone they made a mistake doesn't promote constructive discussions. Telling a disabled person the way they talk is pompous and unacceptable doesn't promote respectful discussions. Banning someone who asks clarification on what they should say doesn't address their behaviour, it doesn't offer guidance, it doesn't answer their questions or help them navigate the platform, and it doesn't make anyone feel heard.

> Assume good faith I treat other Beeple with good faith, even when I think they are not responding to me in kind, unless they are unequivocally advocating for hate or intolerance of fellow humans. I give others the benefit of a doubt when I read their posts/comments, I assume good intent and give others the opportunity to save face/clarify.

And there was no part of this treatment that treated me with good faith, or gave me the opportunity to save face or clarify. I say there's nothing wrong with making mistakes and I had every intention of doing as I was asked, the admin tells me to shut up and go away.

When the fuck did we collectively decide as a society that genders need sources?

Transphobes think that bees have telepathy. Like the Zerg in Starcraft. They think that bees literally actually share thoughts and have no individual will like in science fiction. They think there's a "psychic lobe" in the bee brain that causes telepathy. They're not very good at science, and they don't know that bees communicate through dance. They think it's telepathy.

How am I so certain that transphobes believe in magic bees? Because they argue very vehemently that humans cannot be swarmgender like bees are, because humans lack the physiological requirements to form a hivemind. They are referring, of course, to the fact that humans don't have magic powers. Because they think bees do.

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@kool_newt@lemm.ee commented on a thread about me to say I'm faking my gender. Kool Newt, if you're going to harass me, I prefer that you do it to my face. You say I'm faking being swarmgender, and now I want to hear you finish misgendering me. Pick a gender and call me it. Let's see if your moral compass will stop you from being blatantly transphobic, or if you're bigoted enough to finish what you started.

@Poggervania@kbin.social came to a thread attacking me to voice a controversial opinion: Since being nonbinary entitles me to avoid all the discrimination levelled against real trans people, I ought to be bullied into no longer identifing as trans, transtrender that I am. I would like to thank them for this genius solution. I never thought that we could solve bullying by just bullying more people! What a stroke of brilliance!

Just kidding, Poggervania is a blatant transphobe who openly advocates harassing and attacking trans people for kicks.

For those not in the know, "TexMexBazooka" is the alt account of popular startrek.website user Stamets, who felt the need to personally attack, demean, and subtweet at me for being nonbinary over the past two days.

@TexMexBazooka@lemm.ee responded to a meme about swarmgenders to call me a troll for being nonbinary. Out of curiosity, I tried an experiment, and asked if there are any xenogenders they respect. They responded by saying it's "over the line" of made up specialist [sic] snowflake shit.

Make no mistake: This is the average view of people who yell about how xenogender people are "trolls".

Hexbear users love to call people they don't like "wreckers". What is a wrecker? Well, they define it as anyone who holds views which are disruptive to the majority opinion. This is regardless of whether the views are progressive or reactionary. And fun fact: Progressive views are ALWAYS disruptive to the majority opinion, because it's not progress if everyone is already there. If everyone already agrees with it, it's just normal. Reactionary views, on the other hand, usually defend the status quo and the existing systems of oppression. So it's quite obvious that most "wreckers" are people to the left of Hexbear users. This is a consequence of the basic facts of politics.

So, if a Hexbear user calls you a wrecker, take it as a compliment. They're saying that your new radical ideas are too crazy, and the old guard are going to pick a fight with you about it. I've been called a wrecker for the opinions that slurs are bad, we should accept all genders, and we should speak out when authority is abusive. These are awesome opinions, but they are very disruptive to the status quo and they make me a wrecker. If you believe in doing something about climate change, you're a wrecker. If you believe in a communist revolution, you're a wrecker. If you believe in trans rights, you're a wrecker.

"Wrecker" is a compliment, and anyone who uses it as an insult is a right wing reactionary.

A user who asked to remain anonymous has contacted me regarding a horrible situation they find themself in. A user of lemmy.blahaj.zone by the name of @princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone (a monarchist username if I ever saw one) has been harassing them all across the fediverse on unrelated threads and instances for months. What has this abusive princess been saying? That this anonymous user is me. That's why I'm involved. I actually met Monarchist Norah with regards to this almost three months ago when she randomly pinged me, and I told her to fuck off. Clearly she didn't, because Royal Privilege Norah thinks she's been harassing me for months. When our anonymous friend asked her to just delete her comments trying to out this victim as transgender, she claimed that Monseiur "I just want to be left alone" was MANIPULATING her. What an abusive tactic, manipulating someone into not harassing you!

So what was this poor sod to do but go to the admin of lemmy.blahaj.zone and ask for help. And what did @ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone say? She said "I have the mystical ability to peer into deleted comments on a remote instance, and I saw that you and DroneRights are one in the same! Furthermore there's nothing wrong with harassing someone or outing them as trans if both accounts used pseudonyms!" Well, fuck. It's not like they can escalate this any higher, Ada is queen of her own domain. Hey, queen... princess... maybe Princess Norah is Ada's alt! It would sure explain the blatant getting away with breaking the clearly defined instance rules. Fucking hell.

I would love to post the whole thread here for proof, but I have been asked not to compromise the privacy of this victim, and for bloody obvious reasons, I'd say. So let's move onto what you can do to help this person.

Message your instance admins and ask them to defederate lemmy.blahaj.zone. Ada has no intention of changing her mind, and this is not the first harasser of trans people she has enabled. I spoke about that in another post. We need to protect the rest of the fediverse from harassment, and apparently from attempted doxxing and outing of trans people. So for the sake of trans safety, please defederate blahaj!

@citrussy_capybara@hexbear.net asked for clarification about the level of importance I place on the semantic distinction between nongendering and misgendering. So I'd like to oblige.

But first I'd like to say that hir comment was very difficult for me to read because it contained me saying something I never said. Reading an account of myself saying something I never said or meant is just psychologically very draining for me. So I had to analyse the comment bit by bit and I may have missed some of the wider nuances that would come from patiently reading the comment as a whole. If I missed anything, I welcome hir to correct me and re-explain, and I'd ask that the re-explanation not contain scenarios of me saying things I don't mean unless they're explicitly hypothetical. It's just a psychological quirk I have and I assume it's somewhat common.

I'd also like to correct Capybara's misunderstanding of what I said.

Capybara in their comment:

> dronerights: actually, they/them is right anyways

Me in the comment that got me banned:

> "If you use they/them...you'll never gender someone correctly."

Don't these seem like direct and polar opposite contradictions? There's no way someone who believes what I said could say what ze thinks I would say. So there's no way I could say that a TERF nongendering a binary would be "correct". I said the exact opposite.

Okay, onto the question.

I do not think the semantic distinction between nongendering and misgendering is important when we are talking about binary people.

However I do think it's important when we are talking about xenogender people like myself. When you call me they/them or it/its, you are not misgendering me. I do not consider it to be transphobia. However, it still hurts. I want to be recognised for my swarm gender in my pronouns. And it/its gets kinda close, but still misses the mark. Some days I prefer they/them just to not have to hear people attempt to gender me and get it a little bit wrong. I have neopronouns I use in private, but not in public. It's a complicated issue, but the short version is I just don't feel safe sharing them on the internet where anyone can see them and use them against me. I'd like to have a set of public neopronouns I could share, but I haven't found any that feel like me, and also feel safe to share. So for now, I want everyone to nongender me. But I would absolutely hate it if you called me he/him and misgendered me. Understand? There's a big difference, to my personal experience. The difference is a lot smaller for binary people.

But Hexbear users have ignored my comments about how I see pronouns, and they've patted themselves on the back for "correcting" each other about which nongendering pronouns to use for me. And I think the lack of empathy coupled with the self-righteousness in those instances is disgusting. True righteousness can only exist alongside empathy, and there is no empathy in those moments where my pronouns are "corrected". And I hate that.

> If it said it was being a pedantic jerk and clarified, that would go a long way to earning this generous interpretation of its position that you want to give it.

Am I being a pedantic jerk to inject my own nonbinary experiences into a discussing of pronoun usage for other trans people? I dunno, maybe? I just want to be understood. And that hasn't happened. My gender experiences have just been erased. And I think that's what's important. I wouldn't mind being told my gender experiences are irrelevant to the original context in which I said them. But I think the erasure is a big deal in these discussions about who I am as a person and whether Hexbear treated me with acceptance or transphobia. So I don't think I was a pedantic jerk after I said that original comment.

Nonbinary is lots of diverse gender identities.

There you go. If you want to accuse me of erasing "the one nonbinary gender", you can just link this post. You can accuse me of erasing "Nonbinary: the gender", as long as you don't believe in "Nonbinary: the genders".

If someone told you that I'm guilty of nonbinary erasure because of the views in this post, that person is an enbyphobe who doesn't think there is more than one nonbinary gender.

@good_girl@hexbear.net recently made a comment mis-speciesing my partner. Good girl claims my partner is helicopterkin instead of airplanekin. Now, it should come as no surprise to anyone that Hexbear users cannot conceive of otherkin except as a transphobic joke. The attachment of Hexbear users to transphobic rhetoric is obvious, especially when they misgendered me as UAVgender because of their obsession with that copypasta.

However, the more concerning part of Good Girl's comment is where she said that supporting NPD rights is a TERF plot. Her line of thinking is truly bizarre, and I'd just like to paste it here:

> But the part that raised a few red flags for me was the obsession over the word narcissistic. To me, the way DroneRights broached the topic echoed the way terfs and transphobes speak about trans people being [insert stereotype about narcissists] ...which made me mad uncomfy.

According to Good Girl, the fact that TERFs accuse trans people of being narcissists means that any attempt to advance narcissist rights is a TERF plot. And I'd just like to say, what the fuck. Good Girl hates it when trans people are accused of mental illness, and I hate it when accusations of mental illness are weaponised. So shouldn't we be on the same side? Well Good Girl and I would be on the same side, except for the fact that Good Girl hates disabled people. That's the only way to rationalise an opposition to the idea of not using ableist slurs.

Truly, if there's any other way to rationalise Good Girl's bizarre comment I would like to hear it. But this support for the practice of using my disability as a slur "because TERFs" seems to me to only make sense within a worldview of hate. I cannot imagine another way to take that comment she directed at me.

@ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone claims to be against harassment. In fact, she just made a comment personally harassing and attacking me and gloating about banning me, while lying about while I was banned. You can see it here:

https://lib.lgbt/comment/1997707

Ada's defamation centers on the idea that her moderation policy opposes harassment. Is this true? No.

https://lib.lgbt/post/1096816

Here you can see that 4 days ago I asked Ada to ban someone who made an account just to harass me from Blahaj. Did she take action? No, Ada removed my post and left the Blahaj user's harassing alt unbanned.

Make no mistake: Blahaj is a platform that supports and enables harassment, both from its head admin and in the users she chooses to host and support. Anti-harassment is not a practiced Blahaj policy, as much as Ada lies otherwise.

@CatradoraSomething@lemm.ee thinks I'm transphobic. They said it to a random person who replied to me, trying to defame me. Catradora's reason that I am transphobic is that I don't think enbies are their own gender. They are correct that I don't think enbies are our own gender. I think enbies are thousands of genders. Catradora follows a reductive, enbyphobic model of gender which denies the diversity of the nonbinary spectrum and has been used to erase all kinds of enbies and attack many of our neopronouns. This attitude is typical of Hexbear users, who hate xenogender people for breaking their gender roles for nonbinary people.

I said gender neutral pronouns exist. I said they/them is a non-gendering pronoun. Non-gendering pronouns and gender neutral pronouns are the same thing. You cannot gender someone with a gender neutral pronoun. You cannot gender someone correctly with a gender neutral pronoun. You cannot gender someone incorrectly with a gender neutral pronoun. You cannot gender someone correctly, incorrectly, otherwise, or even at all with a gender neutral pronoun.

All of Hexbear has bad reading comprehension.

Half of them heard me say "you can't gender someone incorrectly with they/them" and hates me for always using they/them.

Half of them heard me say "you can't gender someone correctly with they/them" and hates me for never using they/them.

The amount I use they/them is not always, and it is not never. I use they/them when someone's preferred pronouns are they/them, or when I don't know someone's preferred pronoun and can't find the information. Hexbear refuses to believe it, but there are lots of examples of this on this sublemmy. It's pretty concretely proven.

I said they/them doesn't gender people because it's a gender neutral pronoun. Hexbear's admins removed this comment. Look, it's right here in the modlog:

> Removed Comment "They" is a non gendering pronoun. If you use they/them, you'll never misgender anyone, but you'll also never gender anyone correctly either. Some people are okay with not being gendered and some people aren't. You should respect their wishes once you've heard them, but I don't believe you have any obligation to check them in advance. > by DroneRights [it/its] reason: enbyphobia

Then, the admins banned me for this, and other left-wing comments they feel were reactionary. Look, it's right here:

> Banned DroneRights [it/its] > reason: multiple instances of reactionary takes

In conclusion: Hexbear banned me for saying gender neutral pronouns exist. This evidence is indisputable. If you'd like to dispute it, you're welcome to, as long as you read all of this post and don't lie. If you want to suggest an alternate reading of events, you'd better have evidence.

It is well known that I was banned from Hexbear for this comment, among others:

> "They" is a non gendering pronoun. If you use they/them, you'll never misgender anyone, but you'll also never gender anyone correctly either. Some people are okay with not being gendered and some people aren't. You should respect their wishes once you've heard them, but I don't believe you have any obligation to check them in advance.

Let's be clear about the meaning here. I stated, in the clearest terms possible, that you will not misgender me by calling me they/them.

@Outdoor_Catgirl@hexbear.net responds to me being called they/them with:

> Let’s not misgender even enbyphobic weirdos.

Catgirl obiously thinks it's misgendering to call me they/them. In contradiction with my directly and famously stated pronoun preferences. What could possibly be more libshit than incorrectly correcting someone's pronouns? Catgirl seeks to align my understanding of my gender with her preferences, ignoring mine even while claiming to defend me. What a transphobic liberal.

@SexUnderSocialism@hexbear.net wants everyone to stop "fuelling" my "narcissism". Now, maybe Sex understands NPD. Maybe she's upset that I'm being abused with slurs and transphobia and knows that abuse exacerbates mental illness. But based on the wording, I think it's far more likely she buys into the ableist trope that the negative aspect of NPD is the grandiosity, and she thinks that by abusing me, Hexbear is feeding my ego. This is a very harmful trope used to abuse narcissists, and I would appreciate some clarification, Sex.

@BeamBrain@hexbear.net complains that they were called an ableist for their treatment of me when I first joined Hexbear. Now, I don't remember Beam Brain specifically, but I can assure you the only ableism I talked about was the slurs and stereotypes directed against narcissists. Beam Brain, are you upset that the rare and dwindling progressive elements on Hexbear called you an ableist for using slurs?

I can't tell if it was the admins of Hexbear or the mods of Neurodiverse who did this, but they removed a comment stating that people of my gender deserve the same rights as anyone else. If the Hexbear mods and admins think that trans acceptance is an "epic troll" and needs to be removed, then they are transphobes. Nobody who accepts trans people would be offended by seeing trans acceptance. But the Hexbear mods were.

@FuckyWucky@hexbear.net claims people with NPD have a tendency to be abusive. Although Fucky Wucky admits we can choose not to be abusive, they are still spreading a negative and dehumanising stereotype that has no clinical evidence.

@CommunistLady@lemmy.blahaj.zone has no activity on her four-month old profile, except for harassing me. She came to lib.lgbt to defend Blahaj and Hexbear's transphobia, and try to manipulate the admins while lying about doing so. Notably, they think a gay person's username being a joke about how gay they are is transphobia. Apparently being gay is offensive to these people. This is the typical Hexbearian behaviour pattern of calling a queer person's existence queerphobic, because Hexbear hates queerness that does not fall within the neat little lines of respectability politics and normativity.

Big thank you to @Veraticus@lib.lgbt for standing up for me and taking no bullshit. I have made a post on lemmy.blahaj.zone asking that this account which seems only to exist for harassment be banned. However I do not expect Ada to take action due to her previous transphobic comments and general acceptance of reactionary content on her site.

Some transphobes may complain that calling out transphobia directed at a specific individual is harassment. This is nonsense. If anyone is called out on this community, it is because they were making bigoted comments about a specific person. Because they were harassing someone. Opposing harassment is not harassment.

In terms of rules that people are expected to follow here, the rules are simple: If you've realised maybe hating someone for being trans is a bad idea and you're here to understand my admittedly difficult-to-understand political views, you are welcome. I know that leftist theory can be intimidating and it's okay to ask for help. But if you're here to be transphobic, homophobic, kinphobic, ableist, or otherwise bigoted, then coming to this space to spew forth your garbage is harassment, and you will be banned.

@barrbaric@hexbear.net and @kot@hexbear.net claim my brain is broken and I hate communists. So I'd like to say that I'm a communist. Specifically an anarchist, and more specifically than that a soulist. I believe in worker ownership of the means of production and the abolition of money, class, and state.

I accuse hexbear of pinkwashing because of all the transphobia and homophobia its users and admins direct at me on a regular basis. You shouldn't call your website queer-accepting if you do things like that.

While commenting on a thread mocking me, @SkingradGuard@hexbear.net called me a lib and complained I can't imagine anyone to the left of me existing. This is a ridiculous take, because my far-left views continually confused Hexbear users and provoked aggression while I was there. They believed my gender to be so niche it could only be the work of trolls making fun of queer people. And they disagreed heavily with my assertion "you shouldn't use slurs against mentally ill people". There's even someone saying I have the "being evil" mental disorder in that thread, as I discussed in another post.

The sheer hubris and ignorance it takes to call someone a lib who doesn't understand leftism, because they dislike a lib instance that called them a troll for being leftist, is astounding. This is a profoundly ignorant comment and truly encapsulates the arrogance and refusal to self-crit of Hexbear. They are the ones who do not understand far-left positions like "gender neutral pronouns exist" and "whiteness is a social construct" for which I was banned. For me to be further left than them can only mean I am a troll and a lib. Fucking shitlibs.

Oh, and calling a neurodivergent person insane. Because I guess we had to squeeze some ableism in there somehow.

@Orannis62@hexbear.net thinks I they/them people who don't use those pronouns. And then ze found a picture of me saying not to do that, because it's not correct gendering. I even said "you should respect their wishes once you've heard them. And having made this claim and found this picture where I said the opposite, ze then procceeded to brag about how ze was "right". Truly, the queer literacy level of Hexbear users is undergound.

A lemm.ee user commenting on Hexbear's thread devoted to me has accused me of wanting to see naked people. This is erasure of my asexual/nonbinary identity which doesn't have interest in the binary idea of sex or genitals. They accuse me of having a sexuality I do not in order to villify me.

Hexbear thinks that my other username, PM_ME_FAT_ENBIES is a chaser username. Why? Because nobody could ever have a genuine homosexual attraction to fellow fat enbies, since we're erased as a gender category and portrayed by society as unlovable. Hexbear users think nobody could genuinely be attracted to a fat person. They think it has to be fetishisation. They erase my nonbinary identity and call me binary, and then call me a chaser for being gay. Hexbear is fatphobic, transphobic, and homophobic to oppose my identification as a fat, trans, gay person, and to villify it.

@kristina@hexbear.net is a homophobe. Thank you @WithoutFurtherRelay@hexbear.net for being the voice of reason and pointing out the fact that gay people exist.

https://lemm.ee/comment/5172719

@Catradora_Stalinism@hexbear.net

You asked me to explain my comments to you.

>> They’re the Israel of lemmy instances

> im really not even angry, this is fucking beautiful

> like what does that even mean?

I recently watched an excellent video by John The Duncan about pinkwashing, pride, eurovision, and israel. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vjcCIuSlph4. This pattern of using so-called queer acceptance to legitimise a harmful institution spoke to me as an experience I've witnessed many times, with groups that claim progressivism while attacking narcissists and swarmgender people. Hexbear fits this mold. Now, so does Blahaj and to a lesser extent .world, but Hexbear is the one who proclaimed it to me so enthusiastically and then was so harassing towards me for my gender identity. Look in that original thread and see people accusing me of faking my gender. It's there.

>> Not surprising. Being trans feels a lot like being straight.

> I hope they mean this in like a very very good way

Oh yes, I explained it right there in that comment. I struggled to realise I was trans until I was an adult, because I thought looking at a woman so you can pretend to be her was what heterosexuality was.

>> Grandma doesn’t have a gender and doesn’t realise why people who have genders think they’re important. She’d be equally happy identifying as a man and she doesn’t realise that’s unusual.

> okay please explain to me what this means I legit am just ???ing at this right now

It was in reply to someone saying their relative (I assumed grandma) thinks people would actually transition to get an advantage in sports. I've seen this a lot of times, an older person from before trans rights who is obviously agender and just doesn't realise it, and thinks everyone else would be as comfortable changing their gender identity as they are.

>> Hexbear is transphobic. They harassed me the whole time I was there

> I bet my life savings they were saying dumb libshit or discriminatory bullshit and high tailed it because they got rightly dunked for it

No, it was people constantly calling me a troll or wanting to debate me for having the name DroneRights, because they think drone genders are obviously made up and a conspiracy from the right wing to... promote leftist theory and be in a trans inclusive space?

> Now that i’ve looked through, you could be right, because they have hexbear takes everywhere besides when they’re hating on hexbear, okay and some libshit about finding ‘unbiased leftist sources’

I was making fun of libshit, there. Someone linked me a news article which says boingboing.net isn't factual, because it's left wing. You know, the liberal trope that only centrism is unbiased. I turned it on its head and claimed only leftism is unbiased, while centrist news is biased center and conservative news is biased conservative. Fundamentally I believe that all perspectives are biased because of the limitations of our perspectives. I don't believe in objective truth. But it's funny to turn the libshit around and say leftism is unbiased. I certainly think leftist theory contains more clarity and less disinformation.

> my real contention is finding out their posting on hexbear, what were they arguing about. Give it to us you nerd, I dare you!

I said gender neutral pronouns exist. Hexbear didn't like it. You can go in the modlog and see my comment.

> Keep posting you crazy bastard, godspeed to you.

Okay.

> Although they hated on she-ra out of nowhere once and it really hurt my feelings im still coping hard about that one

That show is monarchist. A bunch of queer monarchs team up to save the world and reinstate the monarchy. The first episode is about a child soldier who was brainwashed by the bad guys into thinking monarchs are evil. WHAT. Monarchs are evil. Silly show.

And you can't gender someone using a gender neutral pronoun. It's impossible. A gender neutral pronoun is the same thing as a non-gendering pronoun. That's why they/them is appropriate for people with neutral or mixed gender identities like agender, bigender, andogynous, and genderfluid people, provided the individual person prefers it. they/them is not a gender identity and stop saying it is to agender people. You're making them dysphoric.

Let's go through the hate in this comment step-by-step:

• NPD is not ASPD. This person is either woefully misinformed about us, or is deliberately trying to attack us by conflating us with another stigmatised mental disorder. And why comment about personality disorders if you don't even know what they are? ASPD is in a whole other cluster. It's either ignorance or hate.

• NPD is not a personality, it's a personality disorder. The difference being, not every narcissist is a mental clone with the same personality. That's so dehumanising!

• the literal personification of individualism WHAT. This absolutely reeks of those tankie conspiracy theories that narcissists are responsible for capitalism because we totally control the world since you're not allowed to blame it on the jews anymore. No, NPD has nothing to do with individualist ideology, in fact narcissists are capable of tremendous collective thinking, as evidenced by the fact that I'm fucking swarmgender and I mindmeld with my partners. This person took a look at the literal godsdamned hivemind and said "personification of individualism", because that's how much they hate narcissists.

• "is something that it believes shouldn’t be maligned" yes I believe mental disorders shouldn't be maligned. This is basic fucking leftism you libshit.

• "they don’t have the ability to understand what is problematic about their behavior" Infantilising and patronising. "Oh, narcissists don't have free will to choose good, they're inherently evil" Fuck the fuck off. Dehumanising as fuck. And completely medically wrong, because NPD as a disorder is initially CAUSED by being too aware of personal failings. That's why we need the grandiose personas.

• "the fact that it hurts others that makes it a pathology." completely misunderstanding the field of psychology I guess. Psychologist are DOCTORS. They help people who are HARMED by their disorders. There is no such thing as a hurting other people disorder. Psychologists deal in medicine, if you want to talk about morality go talk to a priest. Psychologists don't care about the morality of their patients because doctors are supposed to heal, not to judge. This is basic fucking intro to psych.